Dr Harry Perdew

Romantic Nonverbal Signals

2010-06-25T15:21:00.000-07:00

Reading body language can be a lot of fun. When you read someone’s body language a person’s whole body starts talking to you. Suddenly you’re reading gestures, expressions, posture, and every smile or grimace that crosses that person’s face. And, when you put together the body language of two people who happen to be a couple there’s even more signs to discover.

Here’s a few body language signals couples communicate, especially when they’re in the “courting” (we still use that word don’t we?) phase.

Watch how a couple positions themselves in the available space. How much distance is there between them? It’s probably not a good sign if the couple is standing or sitting as far away from each other as possible. The closer a couple moves together physically, the closer they’re willing to get. However, keep in mind the distance factor can be culturally influenced. In some cultures couples relate to each other with an “in your face” manner. In other cultures the distance may be much more than an arms length where if they're forced to draw together too close, too quickly they're obviously very uncomfortable. No matter the cultural trait, closer distance shows... intimacy.

Who makes the first move? Usually it’s the one who is willing to make the first move. Whichever one leans most toward the other is putting more energy into the relationship. In other words, the one being leaned into has more charisma. As the couple’s energy goes back and forth so then does the magnetism.

When your curious about a couple’s age, remember that at any given moment, a person feels a certain age, and projects it out through their gestures and expressions. This facet of body language is fun to read in couples because it can show the amazing contrast to their chronological age. The adage that people in love look younger and healthier is very true. To read couples ages, all you need do is read one person at a time and ask yourself how old? Your inner Kinesiologist will do the rest!

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What Your Eyes Say About You

2010-05-16T11:15:00.001-07:00

In face reading the eyes represent an individual’s outlook on life, openness, emotional expression, stress level, and even dishonesty. They are the features we look at first when meeting someone. The spacing, size, angle, and depth of each eye will tell a lot about how a person approaches life.

For example, depth of the eye in the socket indicates a person’s openness about contributing in personal and public situations. The more recessed the eyes are, the less this person will jump right in and participate. And, if they happen to also have a small ball on the tip of their nose they will probably opt for quality rather than quantity.

People with recessed eyes have a tough time communicating their feelings or being open with others. They also have hidden emotions that they don’t share easily, because they believe others will simply never understand them. This sometimes translates as a person who is suspicious and distrusting of everyone they meet.

If you happen to work with someone with eyes that are recessed deep into their sockets they will appear to be calm and relaxed, but are in reality intense and possessive. They are continually evaluating everything around them and may give you the impression they are agreeing with you because they are nodding their head as they listen to you speak. In fact, they’re only acknowledging that they hear you not agreement. They question things carefully and need proof before accepting anything. They protect their inner self by being reserved, cautious, and observant. It’s not easy to get them to talk, but when they are in the mood, they can be very effective speakers.

When you work with clients and customers who have recessed eyes be sure to ask questions that build trust and allow them to say what’s on their mind. Don’t push these people, and above all let them make up their own minds.

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Job Interviews and Body Language

2010-04-21T13:51:00.000-07:00

During these economic times the competition for jobs is brutal… Recently I was at a job fair helping a colleague interview potential employees for her firm. Most of the candidates had their résumés and supporting materials in order, but were woefully lacking when it came to interview skills. I focused on their body language and was amazed at how oblivious all them were of the nonverbal signals they were sending.

How a person sits, their communication style, eye contact and even facial expressions, provide a good assessment tool and impact how they will be perceived. Body language can make all the difference between job interview success and failure. During a job interview nonverbal communication is just as important as the verbal responses to the interviewer's questions.

Body language is different from one applicant to another, but it still provides similar clues to the interviewer when evaluating responses. Using body language correctly will make the applicant look and feel more confident, which in turn will improve their responses and better their chances of having a successful job interview.

Here are a few body language tips for a successful interview…

Handshake – Make sure your handshake is firm. Mirror your grip with the interviewer; pump three times and let go.

Sitting – Sit down slowly and take a moment to get comfortable. Breathe slowly and deeply. If you look at ease, it will encourage your interviewer to relax in your company.

Posture – Sit upright or lean forward a little to project a confident image. Make sure your bottom is all the way back in the chair. Avoid moving around too much.

Eye Contact – Make eye contact with the interviewer or interviewers when answering questions. Make sure you look sincere and honest and don't forget to blink.

Facial Expressions – A genuine smile always eases nervousness. So smile, and be sure to show some teeth. Be careful not to look too eager.

Hands – Use your hands while expressing yourself as you explain your answers or describe your ideas. Always keep your hands visible during the entire interview.

Fidgeting – Avoid crossing your arms, legs, feet, thumb twiddling, finger drumming, and other fidgeting mannerisms… they all indicate an uncomfortable and defensive position on your part.

Above all, focus on body language that is as free and natural as your speaking style, but don't be too controlled or too rehearsed. When your body language is in sync with your answers, you will appear more confident and in control.

Understanding how facial features and body language relates to the whole person's personality is an easily learned skill that can help you succeed at becoming a more convincing communicator.

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Your Face Reflects Your Passion

2010-03-05T08:02:00.000-08:00

The other night I was with a group of friends listening to a speaker talk about an interesting arcane subject… pyramids. As I was listening to his presentation I was, of course, reading his face. I became curious about how his facial features related to his topic. He spoke passionately about pyramids, their history, magic, and impact on today’s society. As I read his face I noticed his features had a remarkable resemblance to those of ancient Egyptian Pharaohs…

Here are some of the similarities I observed…

A thin face, large forehead, and narrow jaw – People with these features focus on the internal and intellectual, and are more connected to their inner thoughts and feelings than to their outer world. When concerned, they like to solve their own challenges.

A very convex face (where the nose is prominent and at sharp angles to the forehead and chin) – People with this feature are very observant and have a lot of energy. They are confident and quick to act, sometimes a little too aggressively.

Narrow cheeks – People who have this feature experience powerful bursts of energy, but they need to take occasional periods of rest to become refreshed. They dislike situations that just plod along. Slower people tend to drive them to distraction.

A narrow aquiline nose – People with this type of nose have an appreciation of beauty and elegance, but the real talent is in creative problem solving. They can usually see better ways to do things and are not afraid to try them. People with narrow noses at the bottom have had to basically make it on their own.

A nose tip that is turned down and pointed – This feature means its owner is sometimes unfeeling, self-serving, and even deceitful. People with this feature have trouble figuring out how to be considerate and accepting of other people’s viewpoints.

So the next time you see someone who has a passionate interest in a topic check to see if they have facial features that match the subject. Remember, your face will change when you change your personality and your personality will change if you alter your facial features.

Understanding how facial features and body language relates to the whole person's personality is an easily learned skill that can help you succeed at becoming a more convincing communicator.

Reading faces and body language can help you become a dynamic communicator, be more persuasive and create better relationships, not to mention have more fun. Some applications for reading faces and body language are:

Business - Whether leading, managing, selling, hiring, negotiation, or speaking the ability to determine another's attitude and mindset quickly through reading their nonverbal signals is a skill from which every business person can benefit!

Romance - What if you could take one look at someone to whom you are attracted and know right away whether he or she is right for you? Now you can get a quick read on that special person to see if they are indeed the a special one!

Family - A better way to choose your family doctor, lawyer, auto technician, banker, baby-sitter, etc. by mastering the skills of face and body language reading. Recognize your children's talents and direct them toward the right career!

Self - Gain accurate and objective insights to your own personality traits in order to focus on your strengths and work on your weaknesses. Through face and body language reading discover your ability to easily influences people for your personal and professional success!

To become an influential and persuasive communicator the skills of reading the nonverbal language of faces and bodies must be mastered.

Understanding nonverbal communication significantly affects your chances of succeeding or failing in any endeavor, whether personal or professional. It is a powerful instrument of persuasion to those able to use it effectively!

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The Nonverbal Communicator

2010-02-26T18:48:00.000-08:00

Reserchers have found that 93% of communication is nonverbal. That means the words we use are only 7% of what we are trying to say. To become an effective communicator we must master the skills of nonverbal communication by learning to read people’s faces and body language.

Face reading and body language are a means to better communication with every person we meet. Whether leading, managing, selling, hiring, negotiating, speaking or interacting, the ability to determine another’s attitude and frame of mind quickly is a skill from which everyone can benefit.

Reading nonverbal communication is a valuable skill for individuals, leaders, business owners, managers and salespeople; because it is a tool that accurately informs you of practical things, like how a person thinks, fits into a job, makes decisions and spends money.

This program is definitely for you if you’re interested in discovering how to dramatically improve your business and personal communication by:

Learning to read someone’s face in 60 seconds!
Discovering how to build rapport with people in 90 seconds!
Understanding how people make decisions based on facial features and body language!

For example, wouldn't you like to know what response to expect from someone before you approach them or before you say anything to them? Well now you can! By learning how to read people from the outside in!

In this captivating program learn how to persuade with conviction, better serve your customers, and significantly increase your success by reading people's faces and body language! Becoming proficient at these skills can help you reach your personal and organizational goals quicker—no matter what your situation! GUARANTEED!

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